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    Here are the stories of three professional women and each one’s experiences in their unique line of work…   A prostitute is simply defined as a person (male or female) who has consensual sex for money.   Call girls (Escorts) are prostitutes who...

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Sex For Money

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Here are the stories of three professional women and each one’s experiences in their unique line of work…

 

A prostitute is simply defined as a person (male or female) who has consensual sex for money.

 

Call girls (Escorts) are prostitutes who work primarily via telephone to make appointments with clients, hence the term “call girls”. Call girls may be employed by an escort agency, and advertise in the newspaper or via internet. Call girls may come go the clients or invite a client to come to them. The difference between call girls and “street walkers” is that when employed, they undergo background checks for drug issues, arrests etc. Usually they are more educated, attractive and youthful. Some services provided by call girls include sexual intercourse (vaginal, anal), oral stimulation, manual genital stimulation, mild domination, fetishes, striptease, (erotic) massage, and use of sex toys. Sometimes girls are called not for sex but for companionship, such as accompanying their client to social events.

 

Confession of Czech Escort  Street love in the center of Prague costs from 20 to 100 Euro. Brothel services are roughly 40 Euro for a half hour. Call girls like me charge a minimum 30 Euro per hour.  
Martina consented to talk about her work as a prostitute. She became a prostitute when she was 19 years old, and decided to give this interview to warn young girls about everything she went through, including violence and humiliation.
Martina was still in school, and holding down a job to help pay for expenses. She eventually lost her job, and things at home with her parents were very strained. She decided to leave home. Her money soon ran out, and she responded to an ad in the newspaper: “Job for beautiful girls. Big earnings.” When she came to the nightclub, Martina understood what the job was, and she got scared and left. Unfortunately she couldn’t find another job, so she went back to the nightclub and began having sex for money.
– The owners assured me that no one will make me do anything I didn’t want to. I had to work at least 3-4 days per week. But in order to earn more I agreed to work almost every day. Usually my individual schedule was made up in advance. I worked from 8 pm to 4-6 am. Then I had to go to school. It was horrible, I felt completely exhausted in class. I wanted to sleep so badly. The only good thing was that I could afford to buy anything I wanted.

 

- Do underage girls work in clubs? 
- It's so easy for the club owners to get young girls to work. They don’t care at all that they are ruining lives and breaking the law. 

 

- Did your classmates know what you were doing? 
- I said I was working as a bartender. However, some suspected that I was lying. Maybe they saw my photos on the Internet. I even asked my “boss” to give me a contract to prove I was working as a bartender. I even took a picture at the bar and put it in my profile on the social networking website we all were members of. I was always afraid that someone I knew would see me in club. I was always scared that someone like my father would go to a club like that, and I would run into him.

 

- How much prostitutes earn? 
- Well, approximately 120 thousand crowns [$7,000] a month. One can earn an office worker’s monthly salary in one night. It’s hard to walk away from that kind of money. And still, after three years, I managed to break away from this vicious circle. I met my present boyfriend and fell madly in love with him. I told him everything, and decided to leave the job for him.

 

- Do you communicate with your ex friends? 
- I try to avoid the places where I can meet them, even by accident. Though sometimes I want to write a text message to someone, or an email, and ask “How are you?”

 

- What is your attitude towards prostitution now? 
- From an ethical point of view it’s horrible. Yet from a financial one, not so bad. You have to consider the health problems that every prostitute faces sooner or later. For example, I will never be able to have children. Other girls got hooked on drugs out of hopelessness. When I walk down the street I am constantly haunted by the feeling that everyone is staring at me and thinking that I’m a whore. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “You are a whore, so you will do what I want”. I was always afraid to stumble across some maniac, or be forced to do some disgusting sexual act, and there was constant competition among all the girls. Sometimes it got really ugly.

 

- This is terrible! 
- Often when I went to client’s home he would tear off his clothes and very roughly throw me on the bed. I screamed that he should take his money back and let me go, but he wouldn’t. I had to make arrangements with the taxi drivers that drove us to the clients. I paid them extra so that they didn’t leave right away but waited a few minutes. And if I screamed, the taxi driver would come and bang on the door. I managed to get out of the house that way, but when I came back to the club owners with no money they’d make my life miserable.

 

- How was the income divided between you and the club? 
- 50/50; half to me and half to the club. Usually if you go to a client’s apartment, you get 2000 crowns [$120]. If I agreed with the client directly, without the club knowing, I’d do it for 1500. I got to keep all the money.

 

- What was the relationship between the girls like?  
- They fought a lot. We’d all fight over the clients that came in.  I’d fight hard for his attention. I tried to turn them on so they’d pick me, no matter what it took. Other girls hated me for that. But I get it. Some of them had kids, not one, sometimes two or three, and prostitution was their only income. 

 

- What kind people often come to the club? 
- Mostly old people! For example, one of them celebrated his eightieth birthday in the brothel. A lot of tourists come as well. I had a lot of foreign regulars – over ten people who came to spend some time with me.

 

Street walkers are prostitutes who find their clients on public streets. Sex services are performed in a client’s car, secluded alleys, the sex-worker’s apartment, or a hotel room. Street walkers are usually under a pimp’s supervision and protection. There are certain streets that belong to a certain pimp and only his/her girls can work there. There is a high risk of contracting STDs since condoms are rarely used. Prostitutes are often arrested and some of them get locked up for long periods of time. Girls are sometimes illegally trafficked to different countries and held as sexual slaves working in brothels or on the street.

 

Interview with a street walker

 

Tell me about how you began working?

- When my mom died I started doing this, then I fell in love with a drug-addict and tried drugs for the first time. I’d shoot up all the time. I started selling, and ended up in jail. Now I just drink. First I worked with a friend, and when she overdosed and died I started working alone. I never slept with a pimp and never will. I need freedom.I have a lot of regulars. Sometimes I even run a tab. They always pay me eventually.

 

How often do you get tested for STD’s?

- What is your problem? I am a hooker with eight years experience, I didn’t die from drugs, or in jail, or from drinking and getting beaten up – and suddenly you assume I’ll die from syphilis or HIV?! I have standards – only with a condom. Otherwise I don’t do anything. Recently one of my regulars took me out and decided he didn’t want the feel of a condom. I totally refused, so he kicked me out of the car and pushed me in the mud. I spent half the night walking back to town covered in dirt. If I ever see him again, I’ll scratch his eyes out.

 

Porn stars are the actors and actresses that star in the adult films. Actors come into the porn industry willingly, and go through the casting process.  Some of them sign contracts with studios all over the world. Porn stars’ incomes depend on demand and popularity.

 

Aisha, porn actress I am from a conservative family. When I moved away from home, to the city, I figured out where to go and who to talk to, and that’s how it started. I started stripping, and then I went to swinger parties, had fun, and met people who wanted me to star in porn films. I like trying new things, and this seemed interesting. I was shooting in France, Czech Republic. Everything was happening so fast, so much fun, and life was beautiful! I was living freely, I had different “sponsors”, and a person who served me like a slave, he took me everywhere. We didn’t have sex, he just worshipped me and I used him for whatever I wanted. I’d call him in the morning and tell him to bring me something to eat, or take me shopping. And he always did. I went on a date and he waited for me the whole time and then took me home. Back then I didn’t even think I’d be able to fall in love with anybody. Sometimes I even forgot the faces of the people I had sex with in the films, we’d bump into each other at the club and I couldn’t remember if I ever slept with the person or not. My boyfriends back then — some of them hated the porn, some didn’t, but if they wanted serious relationships I told them it wasn’t going to happen because I valued my freedom. Women in porn love their freedom. They love to make their own rules, but they also love strong men. That’s why relationships are difficult. They are either kept women or they have business relationships, the husbands the producer and the wife is the actress. I am proud of my job. There are girls who do this for money, and they are so sad. I didn’t have that problem, I clearly understood that it was just a part of my life, a means to an end, and it will be over soon. Denis and I met at a party. We had sex but it was casual, and we were both sleeping with other people.  Eventually I developed strong feelings for him. We both wanted something else, a different life. I quit porn. I changed radically. I went back to school, and now I’m an office manager. I no longer feel the need to party or to have sex with random people. I love being in love.

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The New Virginity

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The New Virginity is a movement determined by purity rings and virginity pledges and abstinence before marriage. Abstinence-only programs at schools urge students to wait until they are married to have sex and give pledges to their parents. Some students wear purity rings to express their choice to stay pure.

>The first virginity pledge program was started in 1993 at the Southern Baptist Convention; it was called True Love Waits and now boasts over 2.5 million pledgers worldwide in dozens of countries. A torrent of virginity pledge programs followed. > >Some virginity pledge programs use religion to motivate young people, putting Biblical quotes in their brochures. Others use statistics and current events. Advocates for virginity pledges often couple with support for abstinence-only sex education in public schools. They argue that any other type of sexual education would promote sex outside of marriage, which they believe to be immoral and risky. > >  > >True Love Waits 1993 pledge: > >"Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, those I date, and my future mate to be sexually pure until the day I enter marriage." > >  > >True Love Waits more recent pledge reads: > >"Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate, and my future children to a lifetime of purity including sexual abstinence from this day until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship." > >  > >True Love Waits pledge (2009) "I am making a commitment to myself, my family, and my Creator, that I will abstain from sexual activity of any kind before marriage. I will keep my body and my thoughts pure as I trust in God's perfect plan for my life." (quote on card) "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his/her own body in a way that is holy and honorable." 1 Thess 4:3-4 > >Virginity pledges and purity rings became even more popular with the emergence of such pop-stars as The Jonas Brothers and Miley Cyrus, who gave virginity pledges and wore purity rings to express their beliefs and urge young people to abstain from sex. With the influence of popular culture on society, many young people followed and accepted the message, and their parents were glad to see these stars as role models for their children. > >  > >Numerous studies were conducted in order to measure the effectiveness of virginity pledges, some show that girls who made virginity pledges were less likely to become pregnant and engage in sexual activity. Others tell us that virginity pledges do not work and pledgers as well as non-pledgers are similarly likely to engage in sexual activity before marriage, but pledgers are less likely to use contraceptive methods such as the Pill and condoms. Thus it is hard to indicate the exact numbers of those pledgers and non-pledgers who engage in sexual activity and of those who use contraceptives. > >  > >In any case a pledge is something that is psychologically hard to break, most likely due to guilt. However, a teen should be deliberate and educated about any of his/her decisions as well as strongly motivated about their choice to have /not have sexual relationships. They have to be well informed of the true risks of STDs and unintended pregnancy, contraceptive failure rates, and why should they abstain. > >  > >A recent poll from the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy found that 55% of sexually active boys and 72% of sexually active girls wish they had waited longer to have sex.   It night be better to wait because the younger you are the more you are influenced by emotions, the less you are experienced in communicating with people, thus the less you understand their motivations and deeds. It may seem to you that adults are trying to overprotect you just because, but look at this another way: you are young and you are in doubt whether or not your boyfriend or girlfriend is in love with you the same way that you are in love with him/her. And it seems to you that sex is what will make him/her happy even though you are not sure if its the right time, but you do not do it for yourself. In the end, early relationships usually fall apart, partly because young people want to experience diversity and a lack of responsibilities while they still can enjoy it. Usually, young people are not ready for long-lasting relationships. As a result, most sexually active boys and girls wish they had waited longer before having sex. > >Alcohol and drugs may also affect you choices, so it is strongly recommended not to mix alcohol and drug use with sex, because these substances dull the perception of right and wrong, as well as concentration, which may adversely affect the use of contraception (condom tear, slippage). > >  > >Talk to your friends and parents and find out what they think about the virginity pledge or a purity ring,   educate yourself as much as you can, and decide what is best for you. >
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Married to HIV-positive...and I'm OK!

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 I am married to an HIV-positive man. I am ok with it, and I can repeat it a million times. But half a year ago my life was unbearable. Before I met Alex I was married, but it fell apart. Now I understand that I didn’t love my ex-husband. I was probably just waiting to meet the person I was meant to be with all along. When I met Alex, we were both divorced. We liked each other, had sex, and started living together. I had never been so happy! I realized he was the love of my life. I kept thinking it was too good to be true - something had to go wrong. And it did. One evening he told me the truth. He had been HIV positive for 10 years. To say I was in shock is an understatement. For days and days I was dead to the world. I cried when he went to work, called hotlines, and the worst thing was that I couldn’t discuss it with anybody. What could I do? I loved him but I didn’t know if I wanted to take the risks. HIV equals Death, that’s what everyone always said. I don’t know how I lived though that month. But I believe that God heard me and brought me to my senses. My head cleared up and the sense of reality came back.
I love and I am loved, and HIV is just a disease people live with, not an automatic death sentence. We got married two months ago, and I don’t regret a thing.

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World health/sexuality

  • 83% of all abortions are obtained in developing countries and 17% occur in developed countries.

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  • (age) 52% of women obtaining abortions in the U.S. are younger than 25: Women aged 20-24 obtain 32% of all abortions; Teenagers obtain 20% and girls under 15 account for 1.2%.